Sex, Relationships and Respect on Campus is a safety card designed for college-aged students of all genders. The card provides information about healthy and safe relationships, the impact of violence on health, offers multi-level prevention strategies, and outlines campus and community-based support services for survivors. The back panel includes information on confidential national sexual assault, domestic violence, and hotlines/online resources.

Like all of FUTURES’ safety cards, the purpose of this card is to be used by health care providers and health center staff as a conversation starter with all patients on the connections between health and relationships using the “CUES” approach to addressing intimate partner violence in health settings. Moving beyond the limits of disclosure-driven practice (eg. traditional screening for domestic violence), this approach ensures that all patients, not just those who are able to disclose violence, have access to information, resources and support.

It has also been utilized by resident assistants, campus-based sexual and domestic violence programs, academic advisers, and student affairs staff to augment their prevention education and trauma-informed response efforts. The card may also be provided to all students during new student orientation, distributed during campus events, and/or placed in private areas such as restrooms, and stocked on bulletin boards and in clinic exam rooms for people to take independently.

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This Type of Date Night Activity Could Make You Feel Closer to Your Partner

You may want to branch out from dinner-and-a-movie. According to a new study, a different type of date night can bring couples closer together.

The research, which was recently published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, identified activities that spark the release of oxytocin, the so-called bonding hormone, when partners do them together: painting and playing board games.

“Oxytocin is dubbed the cuddle hormone — the love hormone — and that’s because it’s associated with romantic bonding. It’s not released throughout the day; it only is released when we stimulate it,” says study co-author Karen Melton, an assistant professor of family and consumer sciences at Baylor University. “We now know that participating in recreational activities does release oxytocin.”

Twenty married or cohabitating couples were involved in the study. All of them filled out an hour-long survey about family life, which was meant to trigger the release of oxytocin. Past research has found that even thinking about one’s partner can kickstart production of the hormone, and it did in this case, too.

Next, researchers randomly assigned half of the couples to play a familiar board game for an hour, while the others took a painting class. The researchers collected urine samples after both the survey and the activity to measure changes in oxytocin levels.

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Tantus Delta Review

Alright, the Tantus Delta looks more like a fun toy for the ladies, but it’s actually marketed for males. This is a rare situation because of the double stimulation it provides is not as common with male sex toys compared to that of the female variety. Let’s find out more about it, shall we?

Tantus Delta
Tantus Delta


The one I have is a pale shade of pink, and kind of looks like a hand with a bent thumb and curved fingers. The base is rather plain and basic, reminding me of a bar of soap. So, my first impression was that this thing looks weird, not that appealing. Of course, men aren’t really known for buying toys just because they look pretty, we get them because they work and feel great.

The dual stimulation can technically be used for either male or female use to provide perineum/anal stimulation (male) or clitoral and g-spot stimulation (female).


The Tantus Delta measures a total of 5.25-inches in length, with a 3-inch insertable length. The width is just under an inch, so not that wide.

The smaller stimulator is roughly an inch away from the main shaft, while the base is roughly 3” so it’s big enough to ensure nothing gets lost and it stays well on flat surfaces.


The Tantus Delta is designed with medical grade silicone, as all Tantus products are. This means you will be safe to use them, and cleaning up is as easy as wiping it down with toy cleaner, or just boil it if you prefer.

However, with silicone you always want to ensure that you use water-based lube. If you use a silicone base lube it will cause the silicone to break down faster than it should.

Final Thoughts

If you are looking for a good male or female dual stimulator that’s easy to care for, this is it. It’s also in a decent price range, which I always enjoy.

How Important is Sex in a Relationship? The Truth Revealed

If you’ve been wondering just how important is sex in a relationship, these twelve truths might shock you and make you jump under the sheets.

Sex has been the driving force of relationships for as long as we know. Sure, two people can be together without sex occurring, but the whole point of being in a relationship *for human survival, anyway* is to procreate. So on that level, the  question on how important is sex in a relationship answers itself. Well, you can’t exactly make babies without having sex, now can you?

But what about the other, non-procreation needs? Human existence pushes us toward sexual relationships more so than any other kind of relationship. So sex must be pretty damn important in a relationship.

Benefits of sex

Sex isn’t just for the purpose of making babies. There are actually many health benefits associated with sex too. My boyfriend knows how much of a health nut I am, so he frequently uses these reasons to get me into bed and making love to him.

Your immune system actually strengthens the more sex you have. Not only that, but your heart also benefits from the increased blood flow of exercise. It has even been proven to increase self-esteem and other mental health concerns.

How important is sex in a relationship?

Sure, sex may be healthy for our bodies, but how vital is it for your relationship? Is it something we can all go without and still be in a happy and healthy relationship? Or is it the driving force in a relationship that can mean the difference between happiness and misery?


The Sex-Starved Relationship

Being in a relationship where it doesn’t feel like there is enough sex sounds like a trivial and somewhat comedic luxury problem, as though someone were complaining there wasn’t enough tennis or yoga between a couple.


But an absence of sex isn’t trivial in the least, it is humblingly serious and might even be what either guarantees or dooms the relationship itself.

One statistic stands out. In an average year in the OECD countries, 70% of those who initiated divorce cited a lack of sex as the first or second reason for parting. If there’s one generalisation we can make about couples, it’s that a lack of sex – by which we mean, less than four times a month – is an alarm bell we should listen to.

Why is sex such a key part of keeping two people close?

Because in sex, two people accept each other in the most profound of ways. The apparently dirty and shameful sides of us, the wayward fantasies and the unusual longings, are legitimated through sex. Someone else witnesses and accepts us as bodily and psychological beings. Sex symbolises an end to loneliness and a reaffirmation of trust. Not daring or wanting to have sex with a partner is tantamount to admitting that one can’t be oneself in their presence.

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