9 Sex Myths You Need to Stop Believing

Let’s talk about sex. Specifically, let’s talk about what people get wrong when it comes to sex. Despite progress in understanding sexuality and dismantling sexual taboos, there is still a ton of misinformation out there about pleasure, desire, conception, birth control, and more. In my work as a sex educator and writer, I’ve come across a host of false beliefs that have simultaneously made me want to hurl and correct them. I choose the latter. Ahead, nine of the most egregious myths I’ve encountered.

1. You can’t get pregnant if you’re on top during vaginal sex.

Not only is this a joke in Knocked Up (“…if a woman’s on top she can’t get pregnant. It’s just gravity”), I’ve heard this belief earnestly expressed more than once. Cue the biggest eye roll ever. You absolutely can get pregnant in the cowgirl position — and any other position in which a penis is in a vagina, for that matter. Sperm swim, whether you’re straddling your partner, standing up, or doing somersaults. They can also live inside the body for up to about five days. Please get yourself a real form of birth control.

2. The pull-out method can be used as a stand-alone method of birth control.

The pull-out (or withdrawal) method, also called coitus interruptus, is when the partner with the penis pulls out of the vagina before ejaculation. Planned Parenthood reports that about 27 out of 100 women who use this method get pregnant each year, meaning it’s about 73 percent effective at preventing pregnancy in real life. That’s not as effective as condoms, which are about 82-percent effective IRL, or birth control pills, which are about 91-percent effective. Use the pull-out method in combination with another birth control method, folks. Human error happens.

3. Anal doesn’t count as sex.

I once had a friend in high school tell me that she only had anal with her boyfriend because she was saving herself for marriage. Um, what?

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Sex Causes Her to Have No Common Sense

I had to say it, but sex causes many people to lack common sense. I mean, you get the right combination of hair, eyes, and everything else and a person can be sensible 99% of the time. When it comes to sex, that 1% can be hard to fight. Heck, even for me.

I learned this recently when I ran into a guy that I had a crush on throughout growing up. We used to be best friends, then life struck, and we parted ways (under good terms). We recently reunited, and he had just broken up. We decided to meet up and I didn’t think nothing of it at first. But, once he started talking I lost all common sense. He was talking about things like how his wife wanted him to do certain things during sex, but he wasn’t comfortable with it, etc.

For some reason, this told my brain to start picturing him doing those things to me instead. Out of nowhere, my mouth blurts out “Well, why don’t you try them on me first we’ve known each other like a lifetime anyway…” That opened a whole new door, but he didn’t turn it down either. It’s been several days, thought I would give him some time to think it over.

The Best Sex Positions That Belong in Every Woman’s Repertoire

Listen, we all have different sexual preferences. Whether we prefer to be more in control, let our partner take the reigns, or simply want to do whatever will help make a baby, there’s a sex position that suits your needs and comfort level. To figure out what works best when, we tapped into the brains of top female sexual health experts. Here’s what they say are the best sex positions for common bedroom scenarios.

When you want to make a baby: missionary.

Obviously you can get pregnant just by having sex. But if you’re trying to really increase your odds of putting a bun in the oven, health experts will tell you again and again to go with missionary. But not just plain ole’ missionary. In this situation, you should mix in a pelvic tilt, says Amy Levine, founder of SexEdSolutions.com. “Putting a pillow under the tush can help elevate your pelvis and create a slide effect, providing an easy path for his swimmers to make their way through your cervix [and to] your ovum,” she says. “Typically, women who try this tend to maximize the ejaculation, since it stays in the body a little longer compared to positions in which you’re upright [that allow] the semen to drip out of the vagina.”

Another helpful tip: Make sure he works to get you off, says Ava Cadell, a sex educator and founder of Loveology University in Los Angeles. Not only will it feel amazing, but a woman is more likely to get pregnant if she climaxes, she says.

When you want to feel confident: girl on top.

Read full article on www.womansday.com

SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS

SEXUALITY ON THE AUTISM SPECTRUM

Autistic adults have, in general, differences in sexuality from the norm. Many more are asexual than in the average population. It is believed that there is a slightly higher pecentage of gays, lesbians, bisexual, and transgendered autistics than in the average population.

Bisexual or homosexual Aspies may find more potential for sex and/or relationships in the gay community where there is less emphasis on conformity. Girls and women who are autistic can have more chance at success in relationships, generally speaking, than men. This is due to differences in social requirements, where a man is often expected to ask a girl for a date, rather than vice versa.

Living in a society where long-time relationships and starting a family are the norm it can be very hard for socially inexperienced men with Asperger’s to find a partner and some stay away from dating for that reason.

Some of those on the autism spectrum are celibate by choice, feeling that they are asexual, or that there are more important things in life. Others have resigned themselves to celibacy due to the fact that romantic or sexual relationships can be much harder to find due to a misunderstanding of social skills and the difficulty of finding a suitable partner.

Aspie/aspie couples are often more succesful than aspie/neurotypical couples; yet this is not done often as aspie gender ratios has a lot more diagnosed males than females. It is thought that there is often underdiagnosis of females. Sexual feelings may develop later than usual, and relationships can start in the 20s and 30s, rather than in teenage years, as for neurotypicals. (source: Aspies for freedom wiki)

SEX/RELATIONSHIP GUIDES

There are plenty of high quality sex/relationship guides around, so this section is deliberately brief. The key to learning from these guides is knowing that they are nearly always written from the perspective of someone who has had personal success or who has had success in teaching non-autistic people and who are trying to teach specific things from particular perspectives.

Read full article on www.autism-help.org

4 REASONS YOU MIGHT NOT BE ABLE TO GET IT UP (…OR KEEP IT UP)

Erections are a natural biological response to sexual stimuli, but sometimes dicks don’t always cooperate with how you’re feeling. You can be aroused, but your lingam doesn’t seem to be following the script. If you’re having issues with maintaining hard erections, chances are you’re experiencing ED, better known as erectile dysfunction. The most important thing to know about ED is that it is a symptom, not a condition in itself. Once you get to the root cause of the restricted blood flow to your penis, your issues with limp erections can often be rectified. If you’ve been experiencing weak erections and want to know why, take a look at these four common reasons and see how you match up.

1 YOU GET TOO NERVOUS

Anxiety is your erection’s worst enemy. When the mind is in an anxious state, the body turns on its fight or flight response, which causes blood to flow away from the pelvic region and into the body’s vital organs (think heart and lungs) for preservation in case of an attack. Unfortunately, the body doesn’t differentiate between a physical threat and mental anxiety—stress is stress. The best solution is to relax. Remind yourself that you’re not there to “perform”. Focus on enjoying the moment and engaging in a mutually pleasurable exchange. Discussing sex before it happens also helps. Talk to your partner about what she/he likes and share your desires to eliminate the guessing game.

2 YOUR HEALTH ISN’T ON POINT

Health conditions that restrict blood flow, such as heart disease, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes and kidney issues, can cause ED. Medications for these conditions may also restrict blood flow. Stay on top of your health. Get annual check-ups with a medical professional. And, if you’re on meds talk to your doctor about any side effects you’re experiencing. Be candid.

Source: cassiuslife.com

Power Differences in Sexual Relationships?

What we know about power differences in relationships:

Sometimes people do what their partners want because they are afraid of their partner’s reaction. For example, one partner may be afraid to ask the other to wear a condom during sex which increases a person’s chances of getting or transmitting HIV. This is an example of how power differences can be harmful to the relationship and each partner.

Some relationships become abusive and violent because the power differences are so great. In these relationships, it might be even harder to ask a partner to use condoms or to have less risky types of sex. People in abusive relationships may have sex with others outside the relationship who feel safer or seem more caring or supportive.

What you can do

Think about how power affects your relationship and the things you do for your sexual partner. If you can, talk to your partner about your preferences before you have sex. Being able to talk openly is important for getting what you need in a relationship and staying healthy. However, if you feel threatened or have experienced violence in your relationship, it may not be helpful to talk with your partner without help from other people. A counselor can help you think of ways to talk to your partner and find other resources to get out of an abusive relationship. If you are using power to control or otherwise abuse your partner, seek support from a counselor or find other resources to help you learn different ways of being in a relationship. Communicating with your partner, managing uncomfortable emotions like anger and jealousy, and treating others with respect are a few ways to keep relationships healthy and nonviolent.

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INTIMACY AND RELATIONSHIPS

Intimacy involves feelings of emotional closeness and connectedness with another person. Intimate relationships are often characterized by attitudes of mutual trust, caring, and acceptance.

A part of our sexuality might include intimacy: the ability to love, trust and care for others in both sexual and other types of relationships. We learn about intimacy from those relationships around us, particularly within our families.

Our sexual activities can take place with others where there can be varying degrees of intimacy. We may be sexual with an intimate partner, a casual partner, an anonymous partner, a friend, etc..

Often intimacy with others, involves taking emotional risks where people might share personal details and stories. Emotional intimacy doesn’t automatically occur with sexual intimacy, as people who are sexually involved may not choose to share their innermost thoughts and feelings or the sexual relationship might be one where there is not a high degree of emotional intimacy.

Four key factors

There are four key factors to building an emotionally intimate relationship:

1. Knowing and liking yourself

  • Some social scientists suggest that the initial step toward intimacy with others is getting to know and like yourself. By coming to know and value yourself, you identify your innermost feelings and needs and develop the security to share them with others.

2. Trusting and caring

  • Two of the most important components of an intimate relationship are trust and caring. When trust exists, partners feel secure that disclosing intimate feelings will not lead to ridicule, rejection, or other harm. Research shows that trust builds gradually as people come to see the other person has made a sincere investment in the relationship.
  • Caring is an emotional bond that allows intimacy to develop. When people care about each other, they seek to fulfill each other’s needs and interests.

Source: www.optionsforsexualhealth.org

Same-sex relationship

same-sex relationship is a potential form of relationship in The Sims series. Players have been able to create same-sex relationships since the original game, but the way the game has treated these relationships has changed over time. Currently, there are two pre-made same-sex couples in The Sims series. However, several other Sims are implied to be gay or lesbian in their biographies. If they are allowed to act with free will, or if story progression is enabled, they may pursue a same-sex relationship autonomously.

Attraction

In The Sims series, every Sim is technically bisexual, as he/she can be directed to have a crush on, fall in love with, engage in romantic interactions and WooHoo with a Sim of either gender, provided they are of the appropriate age group(s).

In The Sims 2, while editing a Sim in SimPE, a preference scale for males and females, can be found.[n 1] This was carried forward into The Sims 3, but is not as accessible. When first played, most Sims either have a completely neutral preference or a slight preference for (or rarely against) one gender. A Sim’s preference scores gradually change as he/she interacts romantically with other Sims during gameplay. Therefore, a Sim’s gender preference is fluid rather than fixed.

The Sims 2: Nightlife introduced a system for chemistry between two Sims, which is present in all later expansion and stuff packs for The Sims 2. While gender plays no intrinsic role in the chemistry between two Sims, it is possible to mildly influence a Sim’s gender preference by choosing facial hair (only available to males) or make-up (available to both sexes, but very rarely worn by male pre-mades) as a turn-on or turn-off.

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This Super Common Thing Happens When A Couple Stops Having Sex, According to Relationship Experts

If you haven’t had sex in a while, you’re likely experiencing this. But don’t worry, you and your partner are not alone. It happens. And it can be fixed.

Fighting more? You likely you don’t have sex as often as you used to – or stopped completely

When it comes to sex, it almost goes without saying that no two relationships are exactly the same. Some partners can’t keep their hands off each other, while others don’t have sex or rarely do. Plenty of partners even have different sexual appetites. There’s no wrong answer!

No matter the case, a sudden drop-off in bedroom action can take a toll on even the strongest relationships. As a lack of sex leads to resentment and anger, those rising tensions could eventually blow up into a big old fight. (Here is how you can make your partner understand you better.)

What happens when you don’t have sex

A dry spell doesn’t just change your relationship; there are ways not having sex changes your health, too. Your brain releases fewer “feel-good” chemicals (such as dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins) when you stop having sex. So in short, all of that pent-up anger might have something to do with your hormones. (Here are nine things that happen to your body when you don’t have sex.)

But that’s not all

Research has also shown a link between satisfaction with our sex lives and how we view our relationship’s stability, according to Amanda Gesselman, a social psychologist and research scientist at The Kinsey Institute. In other words, we might be quick to jump to negative conclusions if our partner says no to sex.

Read full article on www.besthealthmag.ca

How Sex Problems Can Destroy A Relationship

When your partner has no interest in sex despite your best efforts, it’s easy to become perplexed. And without guidance, partners may characterize the problem in ways that can destroy the relationship.

Sex: What Problem?

Kelly seemed to have it all. A loving mother of three and a public-relations executive in Manhattan, she had a handsome and charming partner who was a successful entrepreneur. They jetted off for vacations in the Caribbean and dined in the finest restaurants. But their relationship floundered in one intractable area.

“After a while,” Kelly says, “he just stopped wanting to have sex. He’d go months without even touching me.”

It’s a subject that’s full of shame: low sex drive. When your partner has no interest in sex despite your best efforts, it’s easy to become perplexed. And without guidance, partners may characterize the problem in ways that can destroy the relationship.

In a society saturated with sexual imagery, it seems strange that some people have no desire for sex. But it is a startlingly common problem. Millions of people suffer from a condition known as hypoactive sexual desire (HSD), about 25 percent of all Americans, by one estimate, or a third of women and a fifth of men. Sex researchers and therapists now recognize it as the most common sexual problem.

Source: www.healthyplace.com